I am a divorced single mother and my 11-year-old daughter doesn’t want me to date. How can I have some romance in my life without upsetting my little girl?
A few of my girlfriends are single parents and I know how much they worry about how their love lives will affect their kids. But I also see how hard it is for these women to be alone. I don’t think anyone should have to go through life alone and, yes, you deserve some romance!
Years from now, should your daughter end up in the same situation, what would you tell her to do? Set the example – show her that you deserve to be loved and that meaningful relationships with men are possible.
Keep in mind that, because of your divorce, your daughter may simply be afraid of letting a new man into her life. The idea of sharing you with anyone may also terrify her, especially since she’s an only child.
I always try to be honest and forthright with my children. Never lie to your daughter about whom you’re going out with and never try to hide your dates – eventually, she’ll discover what you’re up to.
Sit down with her and explain that, while she’s the most important person in your life, you also need to spend time with people your own age. Let her know that you will always have time for her by planning “dates” for the two of you. Whether it’s helping her with homework, seeing a movie, or going to the mall, set aside some quality mother-daughter time.