I’m in love with my boyfriend who is 16 years older than me. We understand the challenges ahead of us but unfortunately, we do not seem to be receiving support from anyone. Should we confront our families and friends about their lack of support or simply ignore them and go on? We are very compatible and the age difference is only a number to us. What would you suggest?
One thing I’ve learned over the years is that you can’t live your life to make other people happy. No matter how hard you try, someone in your life is bound to disapprove of your decisions – especially when it comes to dating and your choices in men. I’ve also learned the hard way that you shouldn’t stop dating someone for the sake of pleasing friends and family.
I’m not saying you should ignore what your family and friends are or are not telling you. By all means confront them, but don’t go looking for their approval. And don’t let the health of your relationship with this man be affected by what others think or say. Besides, age is a state of mind – it’s a cliché, but it’s true. Our appearance may change over time, but despite graying hair and a few laugh lines, we’re really the same person inside no matter what our age. And I’m sure your older boyfriend is no exception.
So go ahead and tell your friends and family that you are fine with the age difference, that you couldn’t be happier, and that you are going to continue dating this man regardless of what they think or say.
I know this sounds rather harsh, but life is too short not to spend it with someone who makes you happy. It’s hard when people close to you aren’t happy for you, but the important thing is to be confident in the decisions you make and the life you are living.