My best friend is a guy and we’re always together but there’s a problem – I have more than platonic feelings for him. Friends have told me that he feels the same way and everyone who sees us together says we should be a couple.
We tried dating once before and it didn’t work well because it was a bad time in both of our lives. I would like to try again but I don’t know what I would do if it didn’t work out. I don’t even know how to bring it up with him. Please Help!
I strongly believe that behind every great relationship is an even better friendship. After all these years of marriage, the trust, love, and companionship I share with my husband stems from the friendship we had long before we ever started dating.
For a woman in your situation, the most important thing is to know how your friend feels. If you want to get serious while he wants nothing more than platonic friendship, a romantic disaster could be on the horizon.
Still, you sound pretty confident that he shares many of the same feelings as you. So all that’s left is to go for it, right? Wrong! Even though both of you may be eager to make the leap from friends to lovers once again, you need to talk things through first.
You should both discuss your feelings, expectations, and even fears. Don’t be afraid to initiate this conversation – it sounds as though he will be very receptive. Talk about what you want from a serious relationship. Talk about what will change and what will remain the same between the two of you. Discuss what you might gain as a couple and what you might lose.
Although this could be a wonderful next step for the both of you, proceed with caution – the last thing you want is to lose your best friend in an attempt to turn him into your boyfriend.