I have been married for ten years to a man who does not sexually excite me. We only have sex about once or twice a year. I have also been suffering from severe depression. Should I try sex therapy?
It sounds to me as though that old black magic just isn’t there between the two of you. The only thing a sex therapist could teach you is how to objectify your guy so that in essence he becomes a human masturbatory device.
The situation is complicated, too, by your ongoing depression. You don’t say whether you’re on anti-depressant therapy, but if you are, those chemicals frequently have a debilitating effect on the old libido.
Maybe it’s time to seriously think about where this relationship is headed. Ten years is a long time to spend with someone you aren’t sexually compatible with.