I met this man that I dated for a while. He left me for someone else, but at least he was honest with me and didn’t just do it. The other woman totally dissed and dumped him. I was there for him, and ever since he has been trying to get back into my life. He has done everything he can think of to let me know that he knows that he threw away the best thing that he ever had.
My mind tells me that I should just tell him to go somewhere, but nobody gets me like he does. As much as I have tried to convince myself that I don’t care for him, every time I try to tell him that I no longer want him, I can’t do it. Should I tell him to get lost or give him another try?
With trust being one of the most important elements in a relationship, you should really give a lot of thought to getting back together — no matter how much he begs and flatters. Yes, he gets points for admitting that he made a mistake, but a relationship can’t be built on apologies. He hurt you once and no matter how great a guy he is, he must earn your trust back.
Women often see only the good things in an ex-boyfriend when they are trying to decide whether to give it another try. “He understood me,” “He was there for me,” “We had a great time together” — but don’t forget that, in the end, he gave all that up. It’s easy to fall for someone’s potential, rather than who they really are.
You are the only one who can judge whether or not this man is worth letting back into your life. Your heart is obviously telling you to give him another chance — but your head has to play a role in this decision too. Can you see the relationship lasting? What if this happens again? Only your head can give you the answers to these types of questions.