I have been married 5 years and, although I experience regular orgasms, I can count on one hand the number of times I have not had to use some sort of lubricant. When I do have my own natural lubrication, it usually burns during sex and I end up using a jelly lubricant anyway. Is there a medical condition that would prevent a woman from producing her own natural lubrication?
There are medical conditions that can cause vaginal dryness: thyroid disease, yeast infection, and bacterial vaginosis among others. Since this is a serious concern for you, the very first thing you ought to do is set up a medical appointment with a sympathetic doctor, preferably a gynecologist. The burning you describe may signify an infection of some sort.
Vaginal lubrication is also affected by fluctuating estrogen levels. For premenopausal women, secretions are scantest on the days immediately following your period. And such dryness is very common among menopausal women. One of the things you may want to discuss with your physician is whether you might be experiencing symptoms of premature menopause.
Stress and depression will have significant effects on libidinal moistening as well, and this is a situation about which you seem to be experiencing a significant degree of anxiety. That creates a vicious cycle: The more inadequate you feel, the harder it will be to get sufficiently excited. But you do have orgasms – and that’s the hard part!
For most women, it is true that mood and arousal levels are by far the most important factors in the lubrication process But every woman is unique, and if it turns out that your body prefers low humidity, you will have to find a way to accept that about yourself. Perhaps you and your husband can experiment with ways of eroticizing the Astroglide application so that it becomes a part of your foreplay.