Even though it’s hot and steamy outside, my love life is anything but. Any tips on how, after being married for only a few years, my husband and I can spice things up?
The first thing you need to do is think back to when your love life was better. By now, the two of you are probably a lot more relaxed around each other – which is good – but have you reached a level of comfort that destroys the romance? For example, after being dressed up all day at work do you rush home to toss your hair in a ponytail and put on one of his big sloppy T-shirts?
Start heating things up by making sure you’re looking your best when you’re with him. Besides, heat wave temperatures offer the perfect opportunity to prove that less is more – less clothing is more alluring. Be bold. Show off your tan and dress up in the latest strapless and sleeveless styles.
Just make sure you don’t end up “all dressed up with no place to go.” And don’t wait until the two of you get home to make plans. In the morning leave a note in his briefcase letting him know what you have planned for the night or call him at work and give him hints. Some relationship experts suggest creating a “menu” – complete with appetizers, a main course and dessert – detailing what your partner can expect during your intimate time together.
Putting thought and effort into planning will ensure there’s plenty of time for romance. Don’t let yourself get caught up thinking that you have to be spontaneous for things to be hot. A lot can be said about planned romance – whether it’s a brief interlude or long, lost weekend!