I am going to be 31 years old this year and I’m a single mother of a two-year-old son. I don’t get out much and, even if I did, I don’t know where to go. My question is, where, at my age, do you meet decent men who are interested in a loving, long-term relationship with a single mother?
I would prefer a man who will be able to love my son as his own, is financially and emotionally secure, and who has similar beliefs about life, love, and marriage. Can you help?
Contrary to what the majority of women believe, there are men out there who are looking for a committed, long-term relationship. Many men are also looking forward to fatherhood and raising a family – and blended families are often the result.
So where do you meet the man you want to become a loving companion for you and a caring father for your son? I don’t advise anyone to meet someone in a bar or club – not that love doesn’t ever happen over drinks or on the dance floor, but it’s hard to be yourself in that environment. Family and friends are the best way to meet a man who has similar interests and goals in life. Yes, I am saying that maybe your mother might actually know a nice boy who would be perfect for you. Brothers, cousins, or colleagues could be other sources – your perfect guy might be the guy-next-door to a very good friend.
Don’t forget to look into activities in your community geared especially toward single parents. You may be pleasantly surprised to discover how many men out there are raising children on their own. Who knows? You may end up with a great man and your son may get a step-brother or step-sister.
It’s important that you are up-front and honest with any man you take an interest in. Right from the start, you need to tell the men you date that you have a son – and that your son is the most important thing in your life. They need to realize that you and your son are a package deal and that you want and deserve to be with someone who will fall in love with you both.