I am a divorced single mother and my 11-year-old daughter doesn’t want me to date. How can I have some romance in my life without upsetting my little girl? A few of my girlfriends are single parents and I know how much they worry about how their love lives will affect their kids. But I [...]
My Husband Watches Too Much Football And Other Sports
Monday Night Football is the bane of my existence. Every week my husband settles into his favorite chair for at least three straight hours of football. This week I want things to be different. Any advice on how I can entice him away from watching his favorite sport? How can I deal with my husband’s [...]
Ideas To Spice Up Your Love Life
Even though it’s hot and steamy outside, my love life is anything but. Any tips on how, after being married for only a few years, my husband and I can spice things up? The first thing you need to do is think back to when your love life was better. By now, the two of [...]
Should I Break-up Before Or After His Birthday?
I’m thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend, but his birthday is coming up. Should I postpone the inevitable until after his big day? It’s hard for me to offer advice without knowing more about your situation. Why do you want to break up with him? Are you fighting all the time? Have you met [...]
Should I Be Worried About Getting Married?
I’m getting married in a couple of months and I honestly couldn’t be happier – or so I thought. My fiancé is wonderful and I love him deeply. But the other day, I ran into a man with whom I was once very much in love. The meeting was such a fluke. I was getting on [...]
Going On The First Date After Getting Divorced
I’m about to go out on my first date since my divorce a year and a half ago. I was married for 15 years and I’m terribly nervous. How should I act? What should I say? Could you offer some advice? First, let me tell you to be yourself! Yes, you’ve been out of the [...]
He Lost Feelings For Me – Long Distance Relationship Problems
I’ve been in a serious relationship for almost four years with a man I truly love and, about a year ago, he took a job in another city. Ever since, we’ve been commuting back and forth on the weekends. Things were going well but last weekend he said he didn’t know if he wanted to [...]
How To Let Him Down Easy
I am going out with a guy who cares for me a lot but I’m afraid that I don’t care as much for him. In fact, the only reason we’re dating is because I feel sorry for him. He’s been very nice to me and I want to let him down gently but I’m not [...]
How To Go From Friend To Lover
My best friend is a guy and we’re always together but there’s a problem – I have more than platonic feelings for him. Friends have told me that he feels the same way and everyone who sees us together says we should be a couple. We tried dating once before and it didn’t work well [...]
How To Deal With Dating An Older Man
I’m in love with my boyfriend who is 16 years older than me. We understand the challenges ahead of us but unfortunately, we do not seem to be receiving support from anyone. Should we confront our families and friends about their lack of support or simply ignore them and go on? We are very compatible [...]
Should I Propose To My Boyfriend?
My boyfriend and I will celebrate our first anniversary soon and I’m sure he’s the one. I think I should ask him to marry me. What do you think? Oh sweetie, I’d definitely give this a lot of thought before you go through with it! Most girls dream about the day when the love of [...]
Where To Go To Meet Nice Men
I am going to be 31 years old this year and I’m a single mother of a two-year-old son. I don’t get out much and, even if I did, I don’t know where to go. My question is, where, at my age, do you meet decent men who are interested in a loving, long-term relationship [...]
How To End An Office Romance And Still Be On Good Terms
I made the mistake of becoming involved with a colleague. Now, unfortunately, my feelings for him have changed and I do not want to date him anymore. How do I end our romantic relationship, despite the fact that we are constantly together? I don’t want to make him feel rejected because I honestly do like [...]
How To Handle An Ex That Won’t Go Away
My boyfriend has weekly contact with an old girlfriend that he broke up with. It appears that she has continued to contact him after the breakup to discuss personal problems. He says that she doesn’t have many friends and he just lends an ear and that’s it. I feel that since they have had a [...]
Should I Take Him Back After He Dumped Me?
I met this man that I dated for a while. He left me for someone else, but at least he was honest with me and didn’t just do it. The other woman totally dissed and dumped him. I was there for him, and ever since he has been trying to get back into my life. [...]
How Can I Trust Him Again After He Lied?
I met a man on the Internet, and when we met face-to-face there was an instant connection. We dated for about seven months, and then I found out he had a wife. He told me that they were separated and had been for a while. I wasn’t sure if I could believe him, so I [...]
I Cheated On My Boyfriend – What Should I Do Now?
I have been with my boyfriend for three-and-a-half years – we are practically married. We live together, and even share money. I love him, and feel that he is “the one”, but our sex life is non-existent. While he is the love of my life, I cheated on him. Does this mean I should break [...]
My Boyfriend Is Jealous Of My Guy Friend
I really need help. I am in a very serious romantic relationship with my boyfriend. However, I am also incredibly close with one of my guy friends. My boyfriend and I got into a huge argument because he is jealous over “how much more naturally” I act with my friend than I do with him. [...]
Is It Cheating If You Are On A Break?
Recently, I broke up with my girlfriend to sort out some family and school issues. During this time, she slept with a guy and regrets it. Now she wants to get back together, but I can’t help thinking that something of ours has been taken away. Am I being unfair? Yes, you are being extremely [...]
Getting Cold Feet After Four Months Of Dating
I met a wonderful woman and had sex on the first date. But now after four months of dating, she’s putting on the brakes. She says she’s getting cold feet. How long should I wait for her to get in touch with her feelings? Your girlfriend is trying to let you down easy. Here’s the [...]
Medical Conditions That Can Cause Vaginal Dryness
I have been married 5 years and, although I experience regular orgasms, I can count on one hand the number of times I have not had to use some sort of lubricant. When I do have my own natural lubrication, it usually burns during sex and I end up using a jelly lubricant anyway. Is [...]
Welcoming Body Language And Flirting
I’m having trouble meeting guys. My uncle said it could be because my “welcome light” isn’t on. What does this mean? The phrase “welcome light” is a new one to me! I assume your uncle is talking about body language. How do you react when you meet new people? Does shyness cause you to look [...]
Sex And Depression – Should I Go To Therapy?
I have been married for ten years to a man who does not sexually excite me. We only have sex about once or twice a year. I have also been suffering from severe depression. Should I try sex therapy? It sounds to me as though that old black magic just isn’t there between the two [...]
Having Sex On The First Date
How much does having sex with someone you just met change the relationship in the beginning? Is waiting the best thing to do, even if the feeling is mutual? I still respect them in the morning even if they do put out on a first date! Sometimes I even cook them breakfast. But I’m not [...]
What STDs Can Be Transmitted Orally?
What STDs can be transmitted by oral sex? Do you have advice for safe oral sex? STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) that can pass from one partner to another during unprotected oral sex include herpes, gonorrhea and syphilis. And although no documented cases are on record, from what we know about the transmission of HIV (the [...]
Can Long Distance Relationships Last?
A long-distance relationship is kind of like buying futures on the commodities market: You’re deferring immediate profits. Whether or not this is the right romance option for you depends both on your temperament and what life-developmental phase you’re growing through. To an angst-ridden high schooler, for example, who really should be concentrating on scoring over [...]
Having Sex During Your Period
My boyfriend won’t make love to me while I am having my period. Is there something wrong? Doesn’t he love me or want me anymore? There are many differences between men and women but none more telling than the cyclic nature of a woman’s sexuality. Throughout the ages, menstruation has been alternately revered and feared [...]
Dating Two Men At The Same Time
I am a 26 year old single female, who is currently dating two men. I feel like I may be asking for trouble by doing this. What do you think? I am completely honest with both, but I am wondering what kind of problems I may end up with. The problems with juggling two men [...]
Can Diabetes Cause Impotence?
My husband and I have been married just over two years, and a year ago he was diagnosed with diabetes. Since that time he has had no sexual desires at all, nothing, not even a twinge or a stirring. He refuses to see his doctor about it and states when he feels like it he’ll [...]
Why Rebound Relationships Don’t Work
I am recently out of a very serious five-and-a-half year relationship (we lived together for four and a half of those years). Less than a month after the relationship ended, my ex met someone else and began dating. After knowing each other for a week and a half, they moved in together. How can someone [...]
Is It Normal To Have No Sex Drive?
Is it normal never to want sex? I’m 21 and have a deep fear that I will always be alone because I never want sex. I did have a deep, sensual, committed relationship throughout high school into freshman year of college, but I haven’t dated anyone else in the past three years. I am quite [...]
My Son Is Dating An Older Woman
My 19-year-old son is dating an older woman. Do you think it’s all right for an 19-year-old male to be having a sexual relationship with a 40-year-old woman? Absolutely NOT! But check back next April, when I turn 40…. Seriously though, there’s nothing wrong with a younger man dating an older woman, although the double [...]